*TRIGGER WARNING!! This post mentions feeling about body image and dieting! This post is about loving yourself, so if these things trigger you please don’t read ahead!*
It’s estimated that 48% of people in the U.K started a new diet last year. That number rose further when they looked at women alone. Diet culture is causing us (men and women, although the effects are largely documented on women.
I don’t think that I know many people who aren’t constantly worrying about their weight and trying to lose weight. This leads to people trying diets (I am guilty of this myself) to try and lose weight, obviously the quicker the better.
Through quarantine I have been telling people repeatedly “I can’t wait to get back in the gym”, I had been enjoying going but I wasn’t quite sure why I was itching to go back. Was it because I enjoyed going or because I felt guilty about eating bad foods.
I sat and asked myself a question that made me in turn question everything. If I lose weight will I be happy? The answer was no. I don’t think that if I lost a tonne of weight I wouldn’t be happier or I wouldn’t love my body or myself anymore then I would now.
What do I want?… to be healthy, to be confident and overall TO BE HAPPY! I don’t want my body to grow up thinking their bodies are beautiful as they are or that people have to be thin, with a flat stomach to be attractive.
So over the last few weeks, I have made some changes and although I’m still pretty new in my journey I have already seen a difference.
So here are 5 things to do to start loving yourself;
Stop thinking that being mid or plus size is bad
One thing I realised was that I was taught that being anything bigger than a size 12 was bad. This meant that when I had kids and my body changed, meaning I couldn’t fit into my size 10/ 12 jeans anymore I automatically hated my body.
I let a number on a label decide how I spoke and viewed myself.
Stop thinking about foods being bad or negative
This came alongside all of the diets I have done. I get myself a bar of chocolate and look forward to eating it but the moment I do I feel guilty because I have created a connection that chocolate is a bad food.
Rather than seeing chocolate as a food the forcible a desire my body wants.
Throw out all the old clothes that don’t fit you!
This is the next thing I need to do, although I need to make sure I have clothes to replace them.
I always feel the most crappy about myself in the morning when I have to choose what to wear. This is because I don’t have any clothes that fit me. All my clothes are too tight and show the bits I’m most conscious of. This is a key part of your journey to loving yourself!
Remove people from your social media that don’t make you feel good!
I had a lot of people on my Instagram that follow me and I followed back to be polite. Sometimes those people are the ones I look at and wish I was them.
I would feel guilty that I didn’t have a flat stomach and that I had stretch marks and cellulite
Follow people that make you feel good!
My favourite thing at the moment is TikTok. I know I’m embarrassed too but I can spend HOURS watching those 60 seconds videos.
There seems to be an ever-growing community for midsize and plus-size women! I will leave the usernames of some people who are amazing and you should go and watch their videos.
Chloelyn Osbourne https://vm.tiktok.com/J6D9NSj/
Whitney Brezinski – https://vm.tiktok.com/J6DHwKu/
Abbey Louise – https://vm.tiktok.com/J6DH5KL/
The one biggest tip I can give you is to work on doing things alone with yourself at home. Got a new top you love, but don’t have the confidence to wear it out in public? Wear it at home until you love yourself in it. Not comfortable wearing a bikini? Wear it at home for a while so you get confident wearing it.
You are a beautiful amazing person and you deserve to be loving yourself as much as others love you!
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